What Is Compassionate Communication, or NVC?

“Nonviolent Communication can change the world. More importantly,
it can change your life.​I cannot recommend it highly enough.”
– Jack Canfield, author, Chicken Soup for the Soul Series

​ Presence 

​​Presence is an essential component of embodying and integrating NVC consciousness.
Inspired by Eckhart Tolle.
If I am feeling constricted, I take a conscious breath and pause. Choosing to slow down allows more conscious presence to move into. I move into flowing with life.
I invite you to slow down and take a breath and let go of all the doing. Bring your awareness to your breath. Feel the breath moving in and out. This creates a feeling of spaciousness within you. Allow yourself to flow into being with Presence.
​Breathing awareness is not a doing. It’s being aware of what is already happening. Being aware of the breath creates spaciousness. Many times during the day, take moments of presence. And as you do this more presence comes. When you are conscious of your breath, you can't be thinking. It's impossible. This creates spaciousness within you. You cannot think while taking a conscious breath. You are either doing one or the other. Slowing down is part of an awareness practice.
                                             Presence

• Present moment
• Being Here Now
• Oneness

 
​Transform judgments into empathic understanding

• Taking responsibility for your feelings and reactions requires acknowledging our underlying needs...rather than the other person's behavior as the cause of your feelings.
• We remind ourselves that people's actions are the trigger and not the cause of our feelings. The cause of our feelings are our thinking, history, or story, not what someone is saying or doing.
• We do not take on the projections from others. 
• ​Take 100% self-responsibility: My feelings are my responsibility and your feelings are your responsibility

                   Some of NVC's Concepts

• All actions are people trying to meet needs
• When we understand each other at the 'need' level, this sprouts seeds of deep compassion, connection and understanding
• In this consciousness, there is a quality of connection in which everyone’s needs matter and are met thru compassionate giving rather than guilt, shame, power over etc.​
• ​Supports us to listen deeply and express honestly with the most care
• ​Inspires shared power ~ seeks solutions that work for everyone
• Expands your inner capacity to respond rather than rea

​                           Would you Enjoy?

• ​​​Connecting with your heart’s longing​
• Deepening in connection with self and others
• Speaking your authentic truth with the most care
• Greater understanding and ease in navigating challenging conversations

• ​​Releasing habitual triggers and experience more choice and inner freedom​
• Increasing your self empowerment and self responsibility
• Inspiring authentic mutual connection and understanding
• A new level of vulnerability and caring that often are not familiar or habitual.​

  NVC Founder ~ Marshall Rosenburg

Marshall Rosenburg PhD, clinical psychologist, developed Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in the 1960s.

NVC is a process of listening and speaking based on compassionate and honest self-expression. It is a powerful tool for peacefully resolving differences at personal, professional, and political levels.

NVC is taught in over 65 countries. It creates a path for healing and reconciliation in many applications ranging from intimate relationships, work settings, health care, social services, police, prison staff and inmates, governments, schools, and social change organizations.

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​“Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience. Taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them” ― Byron Katie

For more information on Compassionate Communication (or Nonviolent Communication (NVC)) go to:

http://www.cnvc.org
The Center for Nonviolent Communication
5600 San Francisco Rd. NE Suite A 
Albuquerque, NM 87109 USA
Tel: +1.505.244.4041
Fax: +1.505.247.0414
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